Frequently Asked Questions
What You Need Yo Know!
What is ‘Family Mediation’?
What Issues can Family Mediation help with?
Arrangements relating to the children such as contact, residency, sorting out levels of child support maintenance and parental responsibility.
Extended family arrangements.
Any family disputes such as inheritances.
Is family mediation the same as marriage counselling and will it help to ‘get us back together’?
Is family mediation compulsory? Do I have to mediate?
What are the benefits of family mediation?
It is a far quicker, cheaper and more impartial way of dealing with issues than going through legal channels.
It empowers both parties to make informed choices about their future lives and those of their children.
It can help establish functional communication and help rebuild lost trust.
It is a more amicable way of resolving issues than involving courts or solicitors.
It will take into account the needs and wishes of any children.
It enables both parties to remain in control of decisions about any children, property and finances.
It is a completely confidential process (subject to child safety concerns).
Any agreement reached in mediation can be made legally binding.
It offers a formal but relaxed atmosphere in which children’s voices may be heard.
Does family mediation really work?
Is mediation cheaper than involving solicitors?
Can children also take part in the mediation process?
The feelings and emotions of any child of the family will play an important part of the mediation discussions between both parties, whether it is the parents or the grandparents that are involved in the dispute. If the participants and the Mediator feel that it would be beneficial for the child(ren) to be involved in the process then a ‘Direct Consultation’ with the child(ren) may be arranged, whereupon the Mediator speaks directly with the child(ren) without the parents being present. However, this would only be possible if the Mediator were trained in conducting ‘Direct Consultations with Children’ and on the condition that both the parents and the child(ren) give their consent for this to happen.
Will I have to pay for mediation?
What else can I expect to happen at a MIAM meeting?
How long is each mediation session?
How many mediation sessions will I need to attend?
The type and the complexity of the individual circumstances and issues surrounding the case.
The parties’ commitment to attend mediation.
The parties’ openness and their willingness to continue to fully participate and communicate during the sessions.
The parties’ ability to provide timely information and supply supporting evidence when required to do so by the Mediator.
Can I bring a friend, a relative or children to the mediation session with me?
Being divorced means you are free from each other financially.
Only assets in joint names, accumulated during the marriage will be divided.
I worked the most and paid for everything, therefore I will get everything.
There is a “standard” approach to settling finances.
I won’t have to show my ex all of my financial details.
As I no longer live in the house, I don’t have to pay the mortgage.
If I don’t want or agree to a divorce, then it can’t happen.
If my ex has behaved “badly” in the marriage they will have to pay me more.
If I admit Unreasonable Behaviour / Adultery or I am the respondent, I will have to pay more.
We have lived together for years, so are “common law” man / wife.
If I am not getting child maintenance, I can stop my ex seeing the children.
The children live with me, so I can make all the decisions about them on my own.
The children always live with their mother.
“Normally” the children see a non-resident parent every other weekend.
I can stop my ex introducing their partner to the children.